Dominant and submissive, two fantasies to enjoy BDSM

Dominant and submissive , two roles that are part of BDSM relationships and that can lead us to experience sexual pleasure as we have never felt before.

This week we are going to look at what it means to be dominant and submissive in a relationship and how each of these roles affects BDSM games .

What it means to be dominant and submissive in a BDSM relationship

The BDSM includes different practices, based mostly in relationships of domination and submission. All people who participate in BDSM sexual practices have a role, it is important that we be clear about our role, whether it is subordination or domination.

In general, domination and submission are based on power exchange practices, the person with a dominant role is the one in command, while the submissive person must obey.

These roles can be fixed or they can be reversed, each couple decides both the distribution of roles and the changes during their sexual practices.

The dominant role in BDSM relationships

The dominant term refers to the person active in a BDSM relationship. This person is the one who submits the submissive party to his authority, imposing his will at all times.

Is it difficult to be the dominant part of a relationship? Yes, mainly because the activity depends exclusively on you, so it is advisable to be imaginative, creative and get to know the other people involved.

Do you want to know how you should behave during a dominant role? Follow these tips:

Do you have sexual fantasies to fulfill? Now is the time. The person who exercises the dominant role must be selfish, he has to think about himself, that is why BDSM sessions are the most propitious time to fulfill all your fantasies without limits.

Don’t take orgasm into account. BDSM relationships are not based on achieving a reciprocal culmination, on the contrary, what it is about is to enjoy every moment, multiplying the moments of stimulation. If during the game, either of you reach orgasm, great, but this should not be the goal for a dominant person.

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Dialogue in this type of relationship is essential, and in this case it is up to you to take the initiative. The dominant person must let the submissive know who is boss, also through dialogue. By the way, it is essential that you establish a safe word to avoid risky situations.

Do not forget that, even if you are the one who dominates the situation, you must base yourself on respect based on previously established rules.

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Submissive Guide

And if your role is based on a submissive attitude, these are the rules you must follow:

Be clear about your own limits. Being submissive does not mean suffering, on the contrary, we must feel the pleasure of being subjected, that is why we must not exceed our own limits.

Have a positive and open attitude. Take it as a challenge, especially the first few times. During the first sessions it is sometimes difficult to get into the role, so it helps a lot to see this type of situation as a game. Over time, you can come to enjoy your submission role.

You should also maintain an attentive and respectful attitude. It is important that the person who exercises the dominant role has confidence, the submissive person must obey immediately, in a way that pleases his / her lover.

Much of the submissive attitude is based on listening. It is important that you capture all the information and put it into practice as instructed.

Never question the orders you receive. The safe word serves to avoid risky situations, however, until reaching these types of situations, you should never question the orders you receive.

Use the deal you have agreed upon. There are many options: mistress, owner, sir…, don’t forget to treat the dominant person with due respect.

Divide the roles when there are more than two of you

A variation of BDSM couple relationships occurs when we add more people. Domination / submission relationships do not have to be based exclusively on two people occupying these roles, they can also occur in a group.

In this case we have two options, either a single person dominates the others, leaving the rest at their mercy, or there are several people who dominate a single submissive, something that usually provides a lot of pleasure to people who enjoy this type RPG.

Another variation occurs when several people dominate others, for example, if we are going to practice group sex.

The important thing in these cases is creativity and being clear about the roles of each person.

My first time… domination or submission?

There are many people who want to try this experience and who do not dare due to different prejudices, from VibraShop we encourage you, little by little, to explore the BDSM world, either with your partners or with other people.

If you finally dare, there will be a first time, then you should take into account some tips.

In most cases, the person who starts out in BDSM starts out as a submissive. What it is about is that you become familiar with the role, that you discover your limits and be able to internalize this type of game while you enjoy yourself. Over time, anyone can be a dominating person, but it is best to start from the other side.

Remember that everything is based on the acronym SSC, in English, Safe, Sane and Consensual , that is, safe, healthy and consensual. Before experiencing your first BDSM relationship based on domination and submission, establish some pre-rules and, of course, a safe word.

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